Monday, 30 July 2018

Journey from Visa visa to Employment Visa

It was my 20th day in Abu Dhabi. Till now I didn't get reply from any company. Now everyone was depending on references. I was never comfortable with using references, it just doesn't feel right. My Bhabi's family friend the one I mentioned in my previous blog as cool, smart, competitive and optimistic person came to my rescue. He discussed with his friend, who also was his ex-roommate regarding me and that I am looking for a job.  His friend called me for the interview the next day. He was the Manager of the company. On the day of interview i.e on 5th March 2017, my brother was accompanying me. The inteview was at 8.30 am, the location was a 45 minutes journey by taxi. We got stuck at one point because it was a warehouse zone, so I hesitantly called the Manager and I was amazed by his humbleness, he clearly guided us with the directions , it was 9.00 am by the time we reached the head office, I could see only warehouses. I was expecting a big fancy building. I reached the interview venue. Even though it was a warehouse but inside, there was a big office. It was the centralized Head Office of a Group and I was about to get interviewed to get a job in one of the companies.

When I entered the office with my brother, the office boy made us sit on the Sofa and gave us water. I saw an Indian person in his late thirties sitting in his cabin talking with some other person while I was heading towards the sofa. After a while, he called us inside. I was prepared for this, I was carrying all my documents.The interviewer was the Manager of the Company, who was that bhabi's family friend's friend and the same person I talked with on the phone. This was my first face to face interview in UAE and I was nervous because already 20 days were passed with only ten days in my hands to get a job.I could see my CV on his table. I was a fresher, no experience and nothing impressive on my CV but still the interview went smoothly. Before leaving, the Manager told me to prepare a business plan on a topic which he told he will email me.


Interveiwers have this skill of keeping their facial expression calm and composed, you can never tell what the interviewer is thinking or expecting. This, I am telling by personal experience. In India I got interviewed many times, there I was looking for Chemical engineering Jobs, there used to be 3-4 rounds. In all the companies I made it to the last round that is to the HR round, clearing the General test, Aptitude test, Technical Test, General Interview and then Finally the HR. I always loved the HR round. My interviews used to be great as per my opinion but I always got rejected, never knew why?I used to cry everytime I got rejected. This time I was not trying to predict the interviewer's expression. I was not keeping any high expectations, I was mentally prepared for any decision. We reached home. Waiting for his email and reply.  Next day I received an email from the interviewer with a topic. I did my research on internet the same day, after working for whole day I prepared the Business plan and the next day(7th March) till night I emailed the plan to him. Unsure what will happen next. All I can do was just wait but time was running out. My Job search was at its peak, we were trying everywhere, open to all the opportunities.


Next day, my brother also talked in Administrative department of his company so that they can let him know if there is any vacancy. One of his colleagues responded and I had a telephonic conversation with him. He was the Manager of a big store and was planning to start up his own company in India. He asked me few general HR questions and then immediately he came to the main point. It was sudden for me to digest what he asked me next. He asked me," Are you confident enough to manage a whole company?", I’ll be doing the investment in you & in the company, you will be preparing the business plan, the estimated investment for that company and will overview the complete execution of the plan, can you do that?". This was a very serious question for me. It's an opportunity anyone would wish for. I was wondering, has he even read my CV. Managing a company is no joke. I answered him, " If given the opportunity and with proper guidance I'll definitely give my best and can run a company". To this he said," Okay, if you don't get a job here, give me a call, I will consider you for a job in Mumbai " and after some general talk, exchange of information,the call ended. Even today when I think of that conversation I couldn't tell the value/significance of that telephonic interview. Did I messed up/was he trying to politely say no to me/was he even serious?" I don't know but then I never called back/he never called me back.


In the meantime I also got interviewed by one of my brother's acquaintances, he was running a Vedic maths coaching classes. My brother thought maybe we should try this also, my teaching experience will be an advantage. After my brother came back from office, we went to meet him. The person I met there was an expert in Vedic maths- Techniques that are taught to solve maths problem faster, playing with numbers is fun. I thought this would be a great opportunity to learn something new. I was open for everything, I was like a molten material ready to take any shape, willing to learn everything but then again why would anyone will pay/spend their time on me, giving training to me,because I am the one who needs the job, they don't need a teacher/an employee. The man was in his fifties. People with experience always guide you by sharing their valuable experiences. He was very clear that there was no vacancy for me but he did give me his precious time and some useful advice and tips. He adviced me on different options to get a job in UAE. Infact he suggested me to start something of my own in a freehold zone. Freehold zones are places in UAE, the owner of such an estate/properties enjoys free ownership for perpetuity and can use the land for any purposes however in accordance with the local regulations.He said," If you don't get a job, start something of your own and then you will be the one giving jobs to other people but for that you will need to apply for "Azad visa". Azad visa means a visa to be purchased from a company not to work in that company but to work independently. It has its boon and bane. It was a great advice but I couldn't understand why everyone is telling me to directly take a  big leap. I always believed that we should start slow, working on our basics and building a strong foundation. I mean when you are fresher, you have no idea about the market, about the outer world, about managing people, about management, there are many other things such as accounting, finances,designing etc. It is agreed that these work will be done by that concerned department person but managing them is the main thing. If for example an accountant present a report then we should be able to understand it. This takes time and experience.Are they missing the point that, I was just a teacher with 2 years experience and an Engineer by qualification with no actual industrial/corporate experience after graduation. This is what my CV was showing. So what is it that is making everyone put such high level of faith, trust and confidence that I can do what they are expecting without any prior experience. What were they all trying to explain? Even tough I enjoyed talking and meeting people, learning from their experiences. I was getting no where. Last five days of my visit visa was left.


In these last 10 days, we were trying so hard, everyone was in tension. The tension ultimately showed effect on my health. My return ticket was booked for 14th March. On the night of 10th March with 4 days in hand, I finally prepared myself for the worst, my head was hurting me, the pain was so intense, the whole night I couldn't sleep, I was shivering, I was cold and was having fever. I didn't tell anybody about the headache,cold and fever.In between the night I was applying vicks on my neck and forehead for some relief because of that I was able to sleep  for some 2-3 hours in the morning when suddenly a phone ring woke me up. The day was 11th March, 7.00 am. The call was from the Manager of the company who I sent the business plan. He asked me to be present at the office at 8.30 am for trial. He told me that they will see my work for 4 days in the normal working hours. I was happy, because there was still hope. My bhabi saw the state of my face and my health and she said, " Don't go, tell them you are not well, How can they call on such short notice?". Concern for me from her part was overwhelming but now I cannot miss this final opportunity. I got up and told her," Don't worry, I'll take medicine and  then I will be just fine". Breakfast was not getting down from my throat, some how I got ready within half an hour, took my medicine and took taxi to go to  the interview location. I was unsure how am I gonna handle the taxi journey, in usual days I feel nauseaous travelling in taxi, what will happen today, when I am not in my good health. My brother was accompanying me. To shrug the nauseous feeling, I plugged in the headphone and was working on my breathing to calm myself. That 45 minutes taxi journey was seeming like life time. The time was going slowly. We reached the location, my brother left me there and went for his work and in the office after some waiting, I was summoned in the Manager's office. He welcomed me and then explained and gave me work to prepare some plans and some formats on one of the computers there. First day was a little confusing, everything was new, I didn't even know how to file a paper, it was a different type of file. One sir tried to help me, but manager told him, "Let her do, don't help". This is what I wanted, I always prefer people who instead of helping, teach me how to do that thing. Helping is one time remedy, it makes the person dependent and lazy, teaching or learning on the other hand is for life time. I didn't feel like I did any work, it was like I am net surfing. Till 5.30 pm I completed the work assigned and left for home. This continued till 14th March. Everyday I was assigned some new work. I was learning and growing. Everyday I travelled by taxi, it was expensive. I didn't had bus card then and was left with no other option.On 14th March 2017, I reached office at the same time, completed the assigned work and had a normal chat with the Manager where he explained me in brief my job description and verbally we discussed about salary and other things such as company quota, visa and other procedure. He said, "We will look for company quota and as soon as we have one we will send you the visa"(Not sure how long it will take). I left office early that day, at 3.00 pm because I had my flight at night. I bid my goodbye to everyone and left from the office with a positive note (My mind was filled with some queries but I didn't have time). My bags were already packed. I was ready to head back to India.


When I reached home, I explained and told  my whole conversation with the Manager to my Bhaiya- Bhabi and the Manger's friend who referred me. Everyone was confused, did I get the job or not? because they didn't give me any offer letter, it was just a verbal discussion and as a proof I had nothing with me that showed that they are hiring me. Some people said trial in UAE is common, companies keep candidates for trial till their visit visa ends, get their work done from them and when candidate's visit visa ends they say yes or no based on their performance. An official document was not handed to me by company, which was considered as a disadvantage in my case. I am heading back to India without knowing for sure whether I am hired or not. What will I tell my parents? Did I get the job or not?  We all were hoping that that verbal conversation was final and fixed and soon they will call me or email me the offer letter. Till then I decided not to disclose anything to anybody. Once everything is finalized then only I'll inform my friends, relatives and acquaintances about my job. I left my brother's place at 9.30 pm on 14th March for the airport accompanied by my bhabi, their daughter and the friend who referred me. He is my saviour and in the process I earned a really great friend.  I owe him a lot but all he asked is a party if I am back in Abu Dhabi for work (that is so kind).They left me at the airport. Again I could not express my feelings like how grateful I am for their love, support and efforts. All I can say is" Take care " and I just left. This one month brought a lot of changes in my life, I made and earned some simply amazing bonds and relations for lifetime, met positive, experienced, knowledgeable and humble people. All in all, it was a roller coaster ride with lots of things in my treasure such as great experience, sweet memories, strong emotions and connections.


I landed in Mumbai, India on 15th March and followed by a 5 hour train journey, I was finally home. That five hour journey to home from Airport also was full of unexpected stories and incidents but at the day end I was sitting safely at my house. I was feeling good. I messaged my brother and bhabi. My family members were happy and were asking me about my experience and finally they asked me that question, the answer for which I didn't have." Did you get the job?". I said," I don't know, but I am hopeful about the last interview which I gave,  where they verbally discussed with me everything and told me that once company has quota, they will send me the visa". Although I was not confident and convincing, but my family believed me and suggested me to be prepared for any decision and told me to simultaneously look for job in India(if in case that company in Abu Dhabi will reject me saying, they don't have quota"). Next day I messaged company's Manager informing him about my safe journey back home and I started asking him queries which I had and couldn't clarify because of time limit in UAE. He told me to do attestation of my highest degree from both Indian embassy and from UAE essential for the visa pocess. I had no idea how to get it done and from where to start. I asked for his guidance and help. He initially said, "You should have done this attestation process before coming on Visit visa''. He patiently replied to all my questions and told me to immediately send my Educational certificate for attestation,  as this process takes time. He told me there are agents who does document attestation , try contacting them.Take internet's help. I did as he said, On the same day (16h March), I searched for a company that does document attestation, contacted the agent and sent my document copies and Original degree through courier. Next day they received the courier, the day was Friday and immediately on Saturday, I transferred the advance money(Agent's fees) so that it will be get done soon. The attestation agent told me it will take 7-8 of working days so Saturday-Sunday is out of picture. I understood 7-8 working days means almost 2 weeks. Till 30th March I didn't get any reply from the agent, my patience was wearing off. I was worried because what I sent was my original degree. So I expressed my fear and doubt to the agent. He said" Don't worry Madam, the attestation from given below Indian departments is done and the document is now in Dubai for foreign affairs.You can expect your attested degree till 5th April 2017



  • Notary Public – (Mumbai)
  • Home department – (Mumbai)
  • Ministry Of External Affairs – (Delhi)
  • Embassy Attestation – (Delhi)
  • Ministry Of Foreign Affairs – (Intended to use country) . 

On  the very next day(31st March) the agent sent me the photo of my attested degree and told me to transfer the remaining amount immediately. I was happy and relieved. I immediately transferred the money and messaged him my proper address where he can courier the document. I told him to send me the courier receipt so that I can track the status.He didn't sent me the receipt so, next day on 1st April, I started conversation with him by casually asking, whether he received the money or not and again requested him to send the receipt. He sent the courier to me on 1st April and told me that I'll get the courier on 3rd April.  One thing was bothering me why the agent is not sending the courier receipt even after my request atleast I 'll track the status, my mind was stuck at that point. 3rd April I waited patiently but I didn't receive any courier. I messaged the agent again in the evening  then he finally sent me the Courier compay name and the courier no.I tracked the status and it was showing dispatched, then where is it? everything was getting on my nerves. I calmed myself and decided to wait for one more day. On 4th April, I waited till 5.00 pm and I was about to give up when I heard a knock on my door and you can imagine how relieved and happy I was when the person at the door was the courier man. I realized how much I bothered the agent during this whole time, so I immediately dropped him the Thank you message and his response was "😆 Thank God".

This part was done. I thought the rest process would be easy, unaware that the other procedures are "the baap of the attestation process".

I immediately informed and emailed my attested documents to the Manager. He said he will contact me soon. From that day(4th April) onwards we were in continuous touch. I was clarifying all my doubts one by one and he was patiently guiding me. While clarifying my doubts, I realized and was now confident that my talk with the Manager was no joke, they are hiring me. I can trust him on that. The realization that I have got a Job and is just completing the formalities was a relief. Still my parents were suggesting me to look for job in India, they were not fully convinced, reason being the same, till now, I didn't get any official paper from the company and all we did is spend money till now.My job quest in India was going on simultaneously and with every pasing day my parents were telling me to try harder, to apply for more jobs and attend interviews even when I was sure that I  have got a job in Abu Dhabi(I was confident  but to respect my parent's views and suggestion, I was applying for different companies in India).I even attended a Job Mela and got interviewed there for a wine industry. I got selected and they called me, but I politely rejected it, telling them I am waiting for my visa.


On 7th April, the Manager assigned me one task so that I will get involved in the office work beforehand and can utilize my time learning something new while waiting for Quota and other process, he told me to prepare a Strategic Pointer Report. He sent me the excel sheet with pointers in the afternoon. My job was to do the research and elaborate the points and submit a report. Whatsapp was our only source of communication so to discuss thoroughly about this new task, we got connected on Skype. I got started on my newly assigned task immediately after talking with the Manager on Skype. Did my research, worked till mid night and finally was able to finish and submit  the report to the Manager the next day in the morning till 8.30 am(8th April). He seemed happy with my work pace . The points which I didn't understand, I asked him and we discussed those details on Skype. I sent him the updated report. He gave me one more task, he emailed me 2-3 half finished reports and told me to  prepare one final report (which needed more research and time)


I was doing work from home and my mother was worried for me beacuse I was working on my Laptop the full time, sometimes even forgetting to eat . My mom used to remind me about food everytime. She told me," You are not even sure whether you have got the job or not and you are working so hard, how hard you will work if you get hired. This is not  the way to work, you should not stress to complete the work when there is no time limit, for now I am here to remind you of food and health, who will take care of you there,if you behave the same way. Never force yourself to finish something which is not urgent and always take care of your health first, work can be done later".

Her worry for me is natural after all it is a mother's heart. Mother's pure and selfless love, words and touch heals everything, you forget all your tiredness, pain, worry. She is the world for me. In her presence, I find only peace and happiness. To calm her down, I told her that I will not behave the same if I get hired.

To everyone's relief, finally the company sent me Employment contract on 9th April. Now I had a legal  document, my parents were happy. Without any further doubts, my parents and everyone told me to focus on this job and my preparation started. I started my research on the procedures to be followed. In case of doubts, my saviour was my Manager. When I look back a year ago, I laugh reading the messages I have sent him, asking so many questions. I was so naive. Next  few days went on research and planning. Already the documents were attested, the next procedure was Medical test. On 15th April I did my Medical Test in GAMCA Center, Mumbai. On 17th April, Sir sent me visa appointment message. I got my Medical reports the next day and it was "FIT". Next and Final step was Visa stamping for which I needed to go to UAE Embassy in New Delhi. I was facing difficulties getting train tickets, we hired an agent but he was delaying every time, this wasted a lot of our time so we took matter in our hand and booked our tickets online of 1st May 2017(0.05am). In this time i.e from 17th April to 30th April, I was kept busy by my Manager because he assigned me more tasks. My family decided that my elder sister will be accompanying me to Delhi. We were excited for our journey.We planned in such a way that the train ticket which we booked will drop us to Delhi in the morning, so that we will do our visa stamping till aftenoon and can leave the same day in the evening or night whenever the work is done. No need to worry about staying in hotel or finding accomodation.We didn't book the return ticket because we didn't know how much time the visa stamping procedure will take. The plan worked. The train journey was full of fun. When we sisters are together we don't need anyone, we are just perfect travel partners. We enjoyed our journey a lot and reached Delhi on 2nd May at 5.30 am. The Embassy was easy to find, we easily got taxi ro the embassy. The embassy was yet to open but there were already many people in queue. We gathered all the information from the watchman and all our procedure got finished till 2.00 pm afternoon( In UAE embassy women are given first preference otherwise it normally takes atleast two days).  We left the embassy, booked our return ticket on laptop and luckily got tickets for the night train to Mumbai the same day.


Now we had enough time in our hands, we first ate something. We were in Delhi, before the journey itself we were planning of shopping in Delhi, so we utilized that time doing whatever we planned. My sister loves shopping and her taste in clothes is great. She already did her research on shopping spots, so we straightaway went to Saroj Nagar Market, Delhi- It is a famous shopping spot where we can get fancy clothes at afforable price. We did a lot of shopping. I usually don't show interest in shopping but first time in life I enjoyed shopping. After shopping for so long, still we had enough time. We thought we will wait at the train station so we took a rickshaw and at that moment we came up with a plan, we asked the rickshawala to take us to the famous nearby spots before taking us to the train station and the rickshawala was so nice, he took us to so many historical places and on the way he showed us many monuments and government buildings, giving us information just like a tour guide. We didn't get down from rickshaw but it was an amazing experience. We saw India Gate, Red fort, Rajpath, Bhavans and many other tourist places in such a short time. Finally we reached Delhi station to head back home. We were very tired but it was worthwhile. We got our train, it was on the platform when we reached there. We reached Nashik safe and sound. This whole visa stamping process was exhausting, time consuming and expensive. But we somehow managed and successfully completed the complete process by proper planning, help and proper guidance in limited budget.


Now, I was all set to go to Abu Dhabi. I was only waiting for our Manager's reply. He said ,"Don't waste your time and immediately book your air tickets". I was worried of accomodation so I asked him about accomodation. He said ," Don't worry about it, we will find accomodation for you, you just book your tickets". I booked my tickets. The flight was on 10th May 2017 at 10.30 pm. From 3rd May to 10th May, I was cherishing each and every momemt with my family. We start noticing small small things. Finally the departure day came. On 10th May, I bid farewell to my family at the airport, I stepped inside the airport to begin the new phase of my life, a new journey full of opportunities, hope and dreams. I landed in Abu Dhabi on 11th May(Thursday) at 12.35 am. My brother was there to receive me. After some sleep, I got freshen up and reached office around 11.00 am the same day(11th May 2017). In the office, everyone welcomed me, all my joining formalities were completed, I was introduced to the Managing director & to all my colleagues. Everyone made me comfortable. They gave me my working desk. On that day I entered the professional world.


One of my colleague already searched an accomodation for me, so after office we went to see the accomodation. It was a very small room but it was enough for one person. We all left for the day. I told my bhaiya-bhabi about the accomodation and we decided to shift my luggage the next day(Friday) which was our off day. In UAE, Friday is the week off. On Friday we did all the shifting, cleaning and arranging and after spending some time my Bhaiya and Bhabi went back home. I was alone in the room but I was happy waiting for the sun of my life to rise. From Saturday (13th May 2017) my regular job started.


This is my story about my experience when I was on vist visa and how my visit visa turned into an Employment visa- My journey from Visit visa to Employment visa.The experience is special to me because it gave me confidence, hope and belief in destiny and unseen divine power. It gave me an amazing family, friends and a mentor(Our Manager). From that day till now, I am only growing, learning new things, taking all the challenges and experiencing a whole new world.


" LIFE IS A SERIES OF THOUSANDS OF TINY MIRACLES, NOTICE THEM"

I noticed them and want you all to do the same, you will be amazed by the way life will surprise you.

Spoiler:Next time onwards my blogs will be stories of people, incidents, issues, events and emotions that I felt, that changed my perceptive, influenced my thoughts and brought changes in my life.

Sunday, 8 July 2018

Job search- A rough start

World for me was always a protective confined environment with people always acting as a protective shield, guarding me, keeping me safe from any harm. When I was a kid, that protective shield were and still are my parents, in my toddler and teenage,the one person who always stood by my side,no matter what,fighting with other people (if they tease me or harm me), is my elder sister. Even today I look up at her for help if there is a problem.I place her forward if there is a fight or we are bargaining at a shop, if I want to talk to an important person on phone or if I want to avoid any unpleasant/boring event. At school teachers protected me and no one dared troubling me because I was too sincere to handle.Teachers admired me because I was competitive and studious.

Till 12th standard, I never actually knew what the real world is like. After my 12th, I applied for B. Tech in Chemical Engineering and got selected in an university. This was the first time I was stepping out in the real world, away from home. I was not scared in fact I was excited and happy. I was never home-sick and I still wonder why?Maybe because technology made it easy for us to stay connected. For me all I need to know is " Everyone I love are happy and healthy".

In the University, I got fabulous friends and roommates who always supported me, guided me, motivated me, backed me when I was in trouble, cheered me when I was sad and above all loved me. They were my shield, my family in the university. Even my university professors were supportive and concerned enough that never made me realise that I am not home. Four years just flew by.

After graduation when I came back home, I realised my shields are falling slowly, because I was busy preparing my own confined world where the only person I was with was "me" and this way I was stopping/resisting my shields from protecting me, I was cornering everyone,hiding everything,trying to be oblivious but I failed miserably because there are people in my life who were still trying to hold that shield from falling down. They cared so much that I just couldn't give up.They wanted to help me and I wondered why? Why does anyone care? I did nothing for them so why are they trying to help me?Back then I was scared of being vulnerable. I was shy,conservative and a worrier. In that two years time span(2015-2017), I was continuously searching for meaning,purpose of my life. Time in and time out, I felt that I am useless,not good enough, average person with nothing but a person with unstitched flaws. I was turning against my own self. I was my biggest enemy then. I was drowning in my own sea of despair, blaming myself for everything that is going wrong.

I survived that phase because of "An Answer" to one question. I have this very annoying habit of asking one question repeatedly to my family until my heart is satisfied with the answer.That question is" Sab thik ho jayega na?"(Everything is gonna be okay na?) and I always expect a positive reply for this question and their answer always used to be" Ha, sab thik ho jayega"(Everything is gonna be fine). God knows how many times in a single day I used to bother my Mom & sister asking this same single question, at times my sister used to get frustrated but their answer to me was always positive, they tackled me patiently and I believed them.

To keep my mind away from negativity I started going on early morning walks, reading more and more books, indulging myself in household work and things started to change. Morning walks made me mindful, I became aware of everything around me, I became aware of my breathe,the beautiful nature around me with birds chirping and the sun rising, my body movements,my mind was gaining clarity. Time really is a healer. It was healing my mind,nourishing my soul and I was feeling happy and energetic. My health which was a mess was getting better. Slowly and steadily I was getting rid of all the problems. I didn't even realise that my question " Everything is gonna be fine na?" is no longer a question, I unconsciously transformed it into a statement.Only one problem was left" A real job", I met many people who demotivated me by telling me things like "It's almost 2 years, now it is difficult to get a job, you don't have experience" and similar other stuff. This quote best suited my situation then
“Everyone tells you what's good for you. they don't want you to find your own answers. They want you to believe theirs.” 
I chose to ignore them, I wanted to find my own answers.
That was the time when I got an invitation to go to Abu Dhabi from my brother whose existence I was unaware of.  We once talked about it on phone but I thought he was joking but when he sent the Air ticket and Visit Visa, at that time I realised he was serious.

I was hesitant because many questions were flooding my mind like what I will do in one month? I don't have experience, why would anyone will give me a job?Will it be a fruitful journey( if not I will be a big disappointment) or will it be just waste of money?  There were no interviews waiting for me, the plan was to go to Abu Dhabi, start searching jobs by dropping CV on different job portals and company websites and if they reply then attend the interview and wait for the results and all I had was one month in my hand. Getting a job seemed next to impossible for me in my thoughts, that's why I was hesitating because it doesn't feel practical and logical and I was lacking the will to go,unlike hostel time, this time I was scared and not excited. Scared of disappointing my parents but my father insisted me to go. He said, "Don't worry, even if you don't get the job, I won't be disappointed, just try, if you fail consider this journey as a holiday, go out and see the world". I never wanted to visit Abu Dhabi, but my brother had already sent the ticket and visa and I couldn't say no to my father. I prepared my mind for the worst and hoped for the best.

The date was set and on 14th Feb 2017, I found myself standing in a different country. I was at my brother's residence in Abu Dhabi, where within 15 minutes I have a family, they welcomed me in their family whole heartedly as if I was always a part of their life? How can they love me, if they don't know me, they never met me before. I was overwhelmed by their love and care. Whenever I meet with people who share their bad experience with fellow human being, I always thank God and feel fortunate and blessed, people who know me often hear me saying these words ," I am very lucky with people, I am gifted, because in my life I always meet nice, kind and loving people".

My count down to get a job had already begun, for almost 1 week I was just researching, dropping CV's on job portals. My brother gave me a list of Email Id's for almost all the companies in UAE (I guess because there were so many email id's, I didn't bother counting). I prepared my CV as per UAE format  and I must say it was really unimpressive. I emailed my CV to almost all the email id's. My brother was trying really hard, getting out of his comfort zone, sending request emails to people he know(for me). Job search was going no where, it was like searching for a needle in the haystack but my bond with my Abu dhabi family was getting stronger and deeper with each passing day. I met 4 more amazing people. My brother's friend and colleague(He is really cool,ever-ready, helpful and empathetic), My bhabi's sister's friend (She is beautiful, intelligent, kind and sweet) and her husband(He is funny, enthusiastic, active, observant and a very good listener), My bhabi's family friend(He is smart, cool, competitive and really optimistic). They all are simply amazing. They without any hesitation added me to their Whats app group. They all were so helpful and supportive,trying in their own way to help me out,giving references.

Everything was going great, I was getting comfortable, they all started knowing me as a person. "Everybody was happy but..........",why is it that there is always a "but", which means"something went wrong" and yes something did went wrong. My bhabi's sister was facing some visa problem. She recently got interviewed for a job interview and got selected but her medical reports created a problem. When she was in India she got treated for TB, after that she got better, but that mark remained and was spotted in the X-ray that was performed in the medical procedure as per UAE law before issuing employment visa. UAE Law immediately ban people with present or history with TB. This one news turned our world upside down. My bhabi's sister is a very mirthful and fun loving person, she is a person who brings life to the party, you will never get bored with her and the thought of she leaving the country was shocking and heart breaking. All the happiness was gone. Everyone was trying to keep her spirit up, to be hopeful, looking for solutions, researching on similar cases but nothing worked.She bravely accepted the decision and made up her mind. To cheer her up we all decided to go out on a trip and create some beautiful memories. We enjoyed our late night trips to different parks, Dubai Mall, Burj Khalifa, creek temple and  luckily that time Global village was going on so, we took that opportunity to make most of our time together(To know more about Global Village please click the below link)


2-3 days after the trip she went back to India. Before leaving, she wished me luck with a smiling face and gave me some tips. I just couldn't explain the feeling of helplessness, why me?I could have known her better,why this has to happen to her?Am I unlucky for her(I was feeling guilty secretly)?Why did it happen the exact same month when I came on visit? I was a no-one but that day I realised that my existence counts because she was in trouble and still she was hoping best for me. That day I learned from her that " When you accept the fact that somethings are not in our control and by holding it we are only hurting ourselves, the best option is to let go and smile". Everyone were sad and missing her but "Life has to move forward. Everything has its time and everything ends". Things began to get back to normal.Now everyone was focusing on me and spending their energy to get me a job.

It was almost 20 days, I was feeling guilty, I felt like a burden because even during that stressful time, my bhabi was worried for me, my brother was running day and night trying to sort things. I only had one telephonic interview which was from some Laboratory and they never ever called me back after that. Time was running out, now everyone were like take any job. I was back to square one. I didn't lose hope. I was mentally prepared for anything because this experience combined with my two years struggle with myself definitely changed me as a person. I was training my mind to see the positive side of life and I was succeeding. Every person I met with, I was only seeing opportunities. I have read these lines somewhere,
" A negative thinker sees difficulty in every opportunity. A positive thinker sees opportunity in every difficulty"
and I must emphasize that I was becoming that positive thinker. Life taught me to enjoy the present moments, leaving behind the bitterness of the past and  to stop worrying about the future.  Worrying will never solve any problem but it will definitely add to your misery. I just love this cycle because it solves all my problems. I apply it whenever I feel I am stressed or is overthinking. It works.

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Now I was not a no-one because every time I was low the universe amazed me by showing that “There are no ordinary moments.”. Everyone is special and every moment is precious. So just enjoy life.

Spoiler: Wondering what happened about my job? Next time I will share with you how the status of my visa changed from Visit to Employment..........to be continued

Thursday, 5 July 2018

The Start of an Unexpected Journey(2017)

The best things in life happen unexpectedly. 
The best stories begin with " and, all of a sudden.." 
The best adventures were never planned as they turned out to be. 
Free yourself from expectations. 
The best will come when and from you least expect it

This is my story of that unexpected journey, which I started a year ago, unaware of the life changing turns I was and am going to experience. A year ago, I was no where, I was clueless, confused and just left my fate in the hands of "The Universe" with nothing but a belief that,"Everything is gonna be alright". The Universe made it happen for me.


Going to a foreign land was never actually my dream but  I guess I was meant to go. It was sheer luck. I was struggling with a lot of stuff be it job, health, family problems. Nothing was falling in place after my graduation in May 2015. I am a B.Tech in Chemical Engineering graduate and was unemployed for almost 2 years till 2017. During that time I sought my solace in teaching, volunteering and definitely enjoying family time. An unexpected invitation changed the course of my life. My cousin brother who works in Abu Dhabi invited me to Abu Dhabi just for a change. He never saw me, never talked with me and he arranged for my visit visa and air ticket.  My visit to Abu Dhabi. The fact that I never fantasized about going to foreign country makes me believe in the term "destiny". There are some things which are pre planned.

It was Valentine's day,14th February,2017, when I placed my first step in Abu Dhabi at 6.10 am. Before hand I was very nervous because I never expected something like this to happen. On 13th Feb, I stepped out of my home with my mom, dad and sister in taxi from Nashik for Mumbai airport at 9.30 pm .We all reached the airport at around 1.00 clock. This was a new experience for me. Normally the check in is allowed 90 minutes prior to the flight. That taxi driver , my mom and my sister left me till the entrance point, I took my Mom- dad's blessings, embraced my sister and then from there onwards I started my own journey. It was like I am in a world where everyone is looking for something. People of all kind were wandering here and there, some were sleeping on the couch, some were waiting for their flight. Everyone seemed to be in some sort of excitement. In the enquiry counter, I enquired about my flight to Abu Dhabi, as it was not mentioned on the flashing time table, I first enquired about my flight at the wrong counter but they guided me to my zone(Zone K) i.e,. to the Etihad Airways counter and there out of surprise the person on the help desk looked at my passport and after looking at my surname he started conversation in my mother tongue i.e., Tulu. He said," Bakaa yencha ullar aaka"means "How are you Sister?" I first hesitated but then I happily answered and after some formal question answers, he guided me towards the Check in point. There again one cabin crew member asked for my passport and asked me if I am carrying any portable charger. Till this time my family was waiting outside worrying about me.I decided to call them when I cleared my check in and immigration procedure. At the checkin that cabin crew member asked me some questions like reason for my visit and similar other questions. After that they took my baggage and gave me some forms and seal to my handbag, The first thing which I did after clearing the checkin point was currency exchange to change INR money into AED. The person already guided me with the direction to the zone I should go.Reaching to my zone took some time but some how I managed to reach my zone. Again there was security, there was passport checking and after handbag checking I was allowed to the other side. I joined a line and to be honest I didn't know why I am standing there, I simply followed the crowd and when my turn came I realized that this is what we call the immigration process.The officer asked me some questions, did my eye scan and allowed me to pass through the locked gate. Once you are through your immigration process, at Chhatrapati Shivaji International Airport, you will come across many shops in between. I got confused with the directions but after some wandering here and there , I finally reached the place where people from the same flight were waiting and I saw same cabin crew members helping passengers.It was already 3.00 am. I called my sister and told them to go. Till that time they all were waiting outside and only after my confirmation,they all left. I always find it difficult to express my feelings to the very people I love the most. I am not good at saying Goodbyes. I  don't know why I act this way but I prefer going unnoticed, it is easy than saying Goodbye. Just you and your solitude(Alone time is my best time). My flight was at 4.20 am till then I waited.

I must say cabin crew members were really co-operative, I know, that it is their job but the politeness and never to wear off smile attitude bring confidence among the passengers especially for the first time travellers like me. Finally the time came and I boarded my flight. Wow! it was really cool travelling all alone, for the first time in flight, beautiful air hostess welcoming us . I reached my seat via business class,everything around me left me spell bound.My seat was to the extreme right row, somewhere in the middle because from the window I was able to see the wings of the plane and mine was the middle seat with two middle aged men sitting to my adjacent sides. They seemed enjoying their own space so I didn't bother chit chatting and my introvert nature stopped me from taking the initiative. Although I did had a conversation with one passenger sitting near the window in sign language(it was funny).There were some stuff like blanket, headphone and neck pillow. Firstly I didn't know how to use that neck pillow but that passenger told me how to use it, he didn't utter a single word but still by his actions, I got his point and imitated his actions, I was supposed to tear that lining of neck pillow and then place my neck in the cut made. Airline staff were helping the passengers and when everyone settled, the air hostess started with standard procedure of demonstrating the safety instructions. I really enjoyed it. I tightened my seat belt and read the safety manual in the meantime. There were some announcements made by the pilot, it was sort of a welcoming speech also stating weather conditions. Finally the take off time arrived and there I was flying in the air. In front of me there was an information screen which gave information about current time in Abu Dhabi and India, about altitude, different ads and various different things half of which I cannot recollect. For some time I was staring at the screen , then for some time I was trying to look through the glass but all I could see was darkness , then again staring at the screen I went to sleep. A gentle touch woke me up, it was the Air hostess, serving the meal. I had my food and realized that I was fast asleep for almost 2 hours in my 3 hour flight journey. I must say, everyone and everything around me seemed beautiful as this journey was something out of my comfort zone. Then at 6.05 am, the pilot again made an announcement about landing and with a small thank you speech he went off air. We landed safe and sound.

I was in Abu Dhabi . Normally the time difference between India and Dubai is 90 minutes when it is 6.30 in Abu Dhabi, it is 8.00 in India.The flight attendants, air hostesses bid everyone farewell and from there I again tried following the crowd.I crossed the security check and was looking for the baggage section . I asked  the security person. He told me you have to go all the way back from where you entered , I did the same and again after eye scan and  passport checking I finally entered the baggage section where I got my luggage and  from there I headed to the exit. I called my cousin brother about my arrival, then my parents and with it my recharge ended (I was using my Indian Sim card, 1 minute= 12 Rupees). Transportation and call charges are expensive in Dubai. After some waiting my brother with his wife came to pick me up from the airport. This was the first time I was seeing my cousin brother even though I talked with him through mobile and via emails,  I never actually met him. Before their arrival, for some time I waited inside the exit door, people from different nationalities were meeting their relatives,. I saw a Group of Filipino people, welcoming each other, laughing and embracing each other, it was getting crowded at the exit, so I decided to wait outside. I could see two blur figure approaching me, they were my Bhai- Bhabi. I gave a sigh of relief because I was worried how they are going to locate me as my phone was not more than a metal box for me at that hour. For the first time I saw my bhabi, my brother's wife, she is beautiful. The moment she saw me, she tried to make me comfortable and talking we entered the cab to our way home.She was talking to me the whole way home unaware of the fact that I don't talk to anybody when I am in car or bus because unlike other people talking makes me nauseous,when travelling I usually prefer no talking with chords in my ears but for that moment I was helpless as it might have sounded rude so I answered to the questions asked and as if reading my mind she told me to open the cab window and immediately I slide the window open, she might have figured out my uncomfortness and uneasiness. It was the moment of immediate attachment for me with her. Since then I don't know how but she always knows what I want without me uttering a word, be it my hestitation or a request,as if she is reading my thoughts. It amazes me when she does that. My conservative South Indian family background always made it difficult for me to get social instantly and she in the first meeting itself touched my heart by her kindness, positive energy, excitement and ethusiasm.On the otherhand my cousin brother is a totally cool and calm person with a heart of gold. After opening the cab window I was feeling better and within fifteen minutes we reached home. There I met their 5 year old daughter(She is adorable) and my bhabi's sister. They all are wonderful people.I am blessed to have them in my life..

My unexcepted journey began that day. I was on 1 month visit visa and the story of my one month stay in Abu Dhabi is to be continued...........

Spoiler: I thought my journey to Abu Dhabi will end with the end of my one month visit visa on 15th March 2017. But it was just the start of the new beginning, a  journey full of stories, incidents, people, life lessons, memories and my simultaneous journey towards self discovery.


                 

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